The myth of age-related infertility……. there is hope and a reason to be positive, hopeful and a little less paranoid every time you google search, each time your monthly makes its appearance after trying so hard to fall that month. I feel you, I feel your pain its no easy task making a decision at this BEAUTIFUL TIME IN YOUR LIFE to want to make a little bundle of joy.
“The heart wants what the heart wants”
When your bombarded with a lot of information it can be daunting and there is also the other painful side of trying for a child again and that is the fear of miscarriage or having to go through one. I have been through two miscarriages, I’m ‘high risk’ with an incompetent cervix and need surgery at roughly fourteen weeks gestation or I may lose my baby. This is why I lost one at sixteen weeks before my first child and one natural miscarriage at seven weeks gestation in mid 2018. There is a fear that comes with loss, so if you are trying and over 35 then I salute you, your so strong and brave!
The Positive Facts
A new government report finds a big increase in the number of women having two children after age 35, that means that women are not only having one baby after 35, they’re having two or more—and thus getting pregnant again at age 37 and up.
How is this possible, if fertility is so compromised for women over 35?
In short: Because it’s not. We have been lied to. (More precisely, given bad information; whether that was purposeful is hard to tell).
- That statistic on one-third of women over 35 never having a child interesting enough, it comes from studies of historical birth records! Usually from the 1700s. More modern studies instead find that 90% of women over 35 are pregnant within two years. And even those studies were done before the modern ovulation prediction methods.
- Fertility declines beginning in your late 20s, with the decline accelerating after 35. But it doesn’t mean in your late 30s you won’t be able to get pregnant, just that it might take a few months longer. Fertility doctors concentrate so much on age because the techniques they use such as IVF have markedly lowered pregnancy rates among older women. But for natural conception, age rarely keeps women from getting pregnant until they are over 40. Even in their early 40s, though, most women are still able to get pregnant, especially if they use ovulation prediction.
- When a woman over 35 has problems getting pregnant, fertility issues other than age are usually the culprit, including male issues such as sperm count and motility—almost half of fertility problems are due to male issues. (Yet how often do you hear that mentioned or agonized over? Not much.)
- Try your best to stay calm and stress less, sounds easier said than done right, I have to tell myself to just go with the flow! Try embrace positive thoughts and faith in your ability to have a child. Wanting a child is such a strong desire, but after we do everything in our power to conceive, we just have to wait.
Ten Helpful Tips for trying to conceive
The most important advice from me is to get to know your body, eat healthy and try to not stress! But get down to business, specifically with your menstrual cycle and how regular it is and keep tabs on it, so you have the best idea of when you are ovulating and most fertile.
Record menstrual cycle frequency
You should monitor whether the first days of your periods tend to come the same number of days apart every month, which is considered regular. If your periods are irregular, meaning your cycle lengths vary from month to month, then by tracking this information on a calendar, you can better predict when you might be ovulating, which is the time when your ovaries will release an egg every month. A woman’s egg is fertile for only 12 to 24 hours after its release. However, a man’s sperm can survive in a woman’s body for up to five days.
Women with regular cycles ovulate about two weeks before the arrival of their periods. It’s harder to predict ovulation in women with irregular cycles, but it usually occurs 12 to 16 days before the start of her next period. Ideally, you’ll have intercourse everyday starting five days before you ovulate and continuing one day after ovulation, covering your six-day fertile window. However, pinpointing that window isn’t easy. If you have irregular periods, predicting ovulation can be very challenging, and even if your periods are regular, you may not ovulate on the same day of each cycle. This means you’ll need to predict ovulation based on information you have about your cycle. Home ovulation-prediction kits can take some of the guesswork out of figuring out when a woman is ovulating.
Have sex every other day during the fertile window
Your fertile window spans across a six day interval, the five days prior to ovulation and the day of it. These are the days each month when a woman is most fertile. Some women are turning to fertility tracking apps and websites to help keep tabs on when they may be more likely to conceive, but a study done in 2016 suggests the apps may not be that accurate.
Strive for a healthy body weight
Being too heavy can reduce your odds of conceiving, but being too thin can make it even harder to have a baby. Trying to keep a healthy weight range can be so beneficial but it hasn’t stopped couples before whether overweight or thin to conceive to be honest (Ive seen it with my own eyes), nature has its own ideas. Guidelines are there for a reason though so make sure to read up and adjust your nutrition and exercise.
Having too much body fat produces excess estrogen, which can interfere with ovulation. Losing 5 to 10 percent of body weight before a woman starts trying to get pregnant could improve her fertility. Women who are too thin might not be getting regular periods or could stop ovulating.
Take a prenatal vitamin
If you are trying to to conceive start taking a prenatal vitamins or folic acid even before becoming pregnant. You can find one that’s more agreeable to your system and stay on it during pregnancy. I prefer going to the local Health Shop and buying natural pharmaceutical grade pre and post natal vitamins some supermarket brands I found aren’t as effective
Another possibility is to take a daily multivitamin, as long as it contains at least 400 micro-grams (mcg) per day of folic acid, a B vitamin that’s important for preventing birth defects in a baby’s brain and spine. Getting a head start on folic acid supplementation is a good idea because the neural tube develops into the brain and spine 3 to 4 weeks after conception occurs, before many women may realize they’re expecting.
Eat healthy foods
Eating a variety of healthy foods can help prepare your body for pregnancy, by giving yourself adequate nutrients such as calcium, protein and iron. This means eating a variety of fruits and vegetables, lean protein, whole grains, dairy and healthy sources of fat. Besides taking a supplement containing folic acid, a woman can also obtain this B vitamin from foods such as dark green leafy vegetables, broccoli, fortified breads and cereals, beans, citrus fruits and orange juice. When trying to get pregnant, eat lower amounts of high-mercury fish, such as swordfish, shark, king mackerel. Also, go easy on caffeine: Consuming more than 500 milligrams of caffeine a day has been linked with a decrease in fertility in women. Having 1 to 2 cups of coffee, or less than 250 mg of caffeine, per day before becoming pregnant appears to have no impact on the likelihood of conception..
Working out while trying to conceive
These days experts like the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists urge women who are expecting or planning to get pregnant to get more physically active. Why? Regular workouts get your body in top baby-making shape by toning muscles including your heart, which has to pump up to 50 percent more blood to supply you and your growing baby. Exercise reduces stress, which has been shown by numerous studies to block the best conception efforts, and it helps you to sleep better. And working out on the regular can help you to maintain a healthy weight, which is important since pregnancy is not the time to try and lose pounds and being overweight or obese during pregnancy can increase the risk of complications like gestational diabetes and pre-eclampsia.
Be aware of age-related fertility declines
As women get older their fertility decreases because of age-related changes in the ovaries that cause a decline in the quantity and quality of your eggs. With advancing age, there’s also an increased risk for some health problems, such as uterine fibroids, endometriosis and blockage of the Fallopian tubes, which can contribute to a loss of fertility (consult with your doctor).
Kick the smoking and drinking habits
Smoking can lead to fertility problem in both women and men. Chemicals found in cigarette smoke, such as nicotine and carbon monoxide, speed up the loss rate of a woman’s eggs.
Know when to seek help
Both the woman and the man should consider having an infertility evaluation if the woman is 35 or older and has not become pregnant after six months to a year of having sex regularly without using birth control.